Dating will be different this time.
Just imagine how you will feel when:
You are confident asking any woman out,
regardless of how she'll respond.
You love the life you are living now.
The thing you are most embarrassed about
turns out to be a wonderful asset.
You dream bigger than you ever thought possible.
Rejection is no big deal.
You go after what you want and keep the momentum going until you get it.
You are able to handle any emotion without needing to distract from it.
Dating is easy.
Sex is fun.
You no longer worry about being alone.
When I heard about what Erika does,
I thought, "This is exactly what I need!"
I was nervous a lot of the time. I knew something was wrong about how I approached relationships, but didn't know what it was. I wanted to feel more secure with myself.
I'm a confident person otherwise, but in dating I would fake it. I never really felt confident. It was like I was split in two- the fake person on the outside and the person who was constantly worried on the inside.
Now I have zero of these issues.
Now when I am with someone I am not constantly worried about losing her.
Our work together helped me be more confident, authentic and present.
Before I was always strategizing, directing my every move when I was around women.
Now I am just in the experience, alive with another human.
I have so much more trust in myself and women than before. I'm not constantly second guessing myself.
The things I learned I can now take with me into the future. I now have a blueprint for navigating whatever issue there is- whether that's in a long term relationship or on a first date.
I don't think I ever would have figured this stuff out
She had such an ability to make me feel comfortable, which was so important. The things I shared with her I would probably feel embarrassed to talk about with someone else. She was able to give me the nudge I needed in a way no one else ever could.
It's been over a year now and the things that we did in our sessions have had such an impact on me. I've shifted my mindset so much.
The things I learned with her have had an effect on my whole life. It's allowed me to be more myself in everything I do- with my family, with my friends, at work. It's not just in intimate relationships.
Your brain was not designed for modern dating.
There's a reason why every rejection feels like you're going to die, and it's not because there is something wrong with you. The very things your brain wants you to do (stay safe! don't put in any effort! seek immediate pleasure!) are the opposite of what creates success in love.
You can cultivate confidence and ease in less time than you think. You just need tools like self awareness, emotional regulation, and the ability to coach yourself on the spot in order to show up in a different way.
Let's retrain your brain.
I offer a coaching program unlike any other dating coach out there.
This isn’t about learning how to be a pickup artist or quick tips to get you laid (though yes, we can talk about how to highlight your best features and how to be amazing in bed).
This is about evolving as the kind of man
you will need to become.
I specialize in helping men who have little romantic
or sexual experience, but my tools and techniques
work across the board.
What is included in Bachelor to Boyfriend?
Thoughtfully designed 12-week program based on proven tools for greater growth.
Weekly video lessons you can watch as many times as you need to master the concepts.
Worksheets and exercises to help you make rapid progress in a short amount of time.
Course materials conveniently delivered right to your inbox, broken into do-able chunks.
sessions with Erika.
Support to help you move past your biggest blocks.
Reflection notes after each session help you remember your biggest breakthroughs.
Spot coaching via email for those times when help can't wait for the next coaching session.
Lifetime access to all course materials, videos, and worksheets.
Additional trainings, webinars, and guides as I create them. Never worry that you missed out by signing up too early.
All the Materials. Forever.
Low risk of failure. You can always come back to the videos and worksheets if you need them.
Low pressure. You'll make great progress, but don't have to figure it all out in 12 weeks.
No FOMO. You'll have access to all new materials created for Bachelor to Boyfriend in the future.
“It doesn’t matter what you say or do—it matters what you’re thinking when you say or do it.”
- Stacey Boehman
The truth is, the exact things you say and do around a woman aren't nearly as important as you think. This is because what you do on the outside doesn’t matter if you have a crappy story about yourself on the inside.
Your best clothes, the perfect pick up line, and all the dating advice in the world can’t make up for a poorly managed mind. This program teaches you the skills of self awareness, emotional regulation, and thoughtwork so you can coach yourself on the spot when you need it most.
If you don’t love the person you see
in the mirror, talk to Erika.
I wasn't feeling satisfied with my life, and I didn't really understand why or where to start to feel better.
Erika helped me find a way to think more positively and productively, while challenging me to confront my blocks.
You're a great fit if...
You are functional as an adult and just want greater confidence and resilience in this area of your life.
You don’t want to keep struggling alone.
You’re ready to take an honest look at yourself and what’s not working for you with an expert who feels like a good friend.
You like the structure of a program alongside the personal attention of meeting with me once a week.
You’re ready for tools beyond what you may have learned in therapy, books, online videos, and workshops.
You are ready to finally go after what you want, even if you’re still not sure you believe it’s possible.
You're not quite ready if...
You want someone to tell you what to do. Quick fix dating advice won’t help you see how capable, strong, and resilient you truly are.
You are unable to care for your basic needs of food, hygiene, shelter.
You are having serious thoughts of harming yourself or another.
You have a diagnosis that is not being managed by a medical or mental health professional.
You want to talk about how awful your life is but aren’t ready to take action to improve it.
You aren’t willing to make yourself a priority.
Bachelor to Boyfriend
TOOLS TO UPLEVEL YOUR LIFE. FOR LIFE.
Weekly 45-minute private coaching sessions with Erika (12 total)
Personalized reflections after each coaching session
Option to record coaching sessions
12-week program of proven tools to manage your mind around dating and sex
40+ video lessons
PDF fillable workbook
Weekly check-in email
Spot coaching in between sessions
Access to future bonus material
Lifetime access to materials
The focus is on you. Every session is tailored to your specific background, situation, and goals.
DOORS OPEN DEC 2023
Enrollment for the current cohort is closed.
Join the waitlist to be notified when doors are open.
Not yet ready to make the first move?
Ok, I'll go first. :)
If you feel that you’re in stuck in a cycle of frustration,
I'm confident that this will help you break it.
I can't promise that this program is going to magically give you a partner at the end of 12 weeks because it didn't happen for me.
But if you feel that you’re in stuck in a cycle of frustration, I'm confident that this will help you break it.
This is about so much more than getting a girlfriend or being good in bed.
HERE IS WHAT'S POSSIBLE WITH MY HELP:
You take massive action towards the relationship you want, rather than passively hoping it will happen.
You are free from a fear of rejection. You know you can handle it.
You stop over-thinking and over-analyzing every interaction with a woman.
You learn to manage your mind so you can work with, rather than against yourself.
You show yourself that you are capable of more than you thought possible.
You have more fun and better connections with co-workers, friends, and family.
You waste less time on women who aren’t right for you and habits that distract you.
You have greater acceptance and compassion for yourself. You can feel big feelings without getting stuck in them.
You don't worry your peers are moving forward in their lives while yours stays the same.
You know that you are worthy of love and pleasure, no matter how long you’ve believed otherwise.
Will it work for me?The tools I use in my coaching are powerful and transformative. If you commit yourself to this work, show up fully to our sessions, and complete all homework outside of them, you will blow your own mind with what you can achieve.
What if it doesn't work? I can't handle getting rejected again.Fear and rejection are normal human emotions. You’ll learn how to handle any emotion without it consuming you or needing to distract from it. You are stronger than you know.
I want to sign up, but now isn't the right time.The tools and concepts I teach will improve every area of your life. There will never be a more “convenient” or “better” time than now. The sooner you invest in yourself, the longer you will reap the benefits of a more confident, more resilient you. The next cohort begins Sept 15, 2023.
Who do you work with?My typical client is male, between 25-55 years old, and straight. All the videos are geared toward this audience. That said, if you are another gender, are outside of this age range, or have a different sexual orientation, I'm here for you! I am age, gender and queer affirming, which you would experience in our one-on-one sessions.
My problem is sexual dysfunction. Can I still join?YES! It is important you get seen by a doctor to rule out any more serious conditions. If you have been told that “it’s all in your head” or that your anxiety or psychology are playing a role, this is where coaching can help in a big way.
I actually have a lot of dating experience or already have a partner, can I still join?Absolutely. The tools I teach work for every experience level. I’ve worked with men across the board.
How do I access the course materials?Each week you will receive an email with links to the week’s video lessons and workbook pages. You can keep the worksheets private or share with me via email; whatever works for you.
How much time should I commit?5+ hours per week, on average. 90 minutes a week to complete the video lessons and at home exercises, 45 minutes for our weekly coaching sessions, and 2.5+ hours a week to get out dating, meeting people, and taking action.
When will I see results?Most clients start to feel better after the very first session. By lesson 3, the tools will really start to click and you will look at your mind and the world in a new way.
When does the program start?The next program starts September 15th. There is still time to join until September 19th.
Do you offer in person sessions?No. All sessions are conducted live via Zoom online, but not in person.
Is it confidential?One-on-one sessions are absolutely confidential. I will never share any identifying details about you. If we were to run into each other in person, I would pretend I did not know you, unless you approached me first. Group coaching sessions are confidential within the members of the group. Group size is limited to 6 men.
How much is Bachelor to Boyfriend?One-on-one is currently one payment of $2500.
I want to join, but it's too much money.It’s not cheap, and that’s by design. Making an investment in yourself is the best kind you can make because it continues to pay off throughout your life. That said, I do my best to keep my program affordable, given the personalized level of support. The men who get the most from this program don’t just pay and expect magic to happen; they show up week after week. It’s the difference between paying a little for a gym membership you never use and investing more in a personal trainer so you’ll actually get results.
I don’t have the money.Here are a few questions that may help you decide what’s best for you: How might my life be different ten years from now if I figure this stuff out now? How might my life be the same in ten years if I don't? What else would I be doing with $__? If I used the $___ in that way and still never figured out my dating/sex life, would I like the result? If I really wanted to sign up for this program, how could I make it work?
Do you offer payment plans?No, I do not. The clients who sign up for Bachelor to Boyfriend are all in from the beginning. Sometimes it means saving up for a while or shifting funds in order to make it work.
Still not sure?
I totally get it. I thought for the longest time that coaching was silly and unnecessary— and one of my best friends has been a successful career coach for years!
Before I tried coaching, I had all kinds of thoughts like:
“I can do it on my own.”
“There are YouTube videos for this.”
“My problem is unique. She won’t understand.”
If any of these sound like your mind right now, it makes sense. Your brain is just trying to keep you safe and comfortable.
But safe and comfortable do not equal growth.
And growth is what is necessary to take you from the man you are today to the man you are becoming.