I help millennial men cultivate the confidence to

show up fully

in life and love.

"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." 
                                                                                                 -- Rumi

I see you.


I see you trying your best to be a good man in a world that seems to be giving you conflicting messages.


Express your feelings.  (But be a “real man” and don’t cry.)


Be sexually assertive. (Yet non-threatening.)

Get help when needed. (Actually, don’t.  Your needs are a weakness.)

Be strong. (And vulnerable, too.)

Provide and protect. (But also contribute equally at home.)


Don’t fuck up. (Failure isn't an option.)


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You want to be a good guy, and yet it seems like you’d have to be a jerk in some way to have the kind of money, relationship, career, sex life, or adventure you want.

You pull back.

Second guess yourself.

Afraid to make the wrong choices in life.

Maybe you feel like you’ve missed experiences you wished you’d had. 

Maybe you think it’s too late for you now. 

You may even feel like life is slipping by, unsure how to make it any better. 


I’m Erika Davian.  I specialize in working with millennial men who are facing challenges in their dating lives, sexual performance, relationships, money mindset, and career/life goals.

As your life coach, I will teach you how to cultivate the confidence to become the fullest version of yourself in your work, relationships, and life. 


It all starts with learning to manage your mind.